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when something unthinkable happens to your child
Posted On 03/19/2012 14:24:13 by BrandiLea

Life as I knew it changed for me on Feb 18th 2012. I started off as a lazy day. The kids were going with there dad out to eat, to a movie and shopping. My boyfriend and  I were going to have the day to ourselves and we were thinking about going shopping for new paint colors and start painting the room at the top of the stairs...which was turned into a living room for the kids to watch what they want, and the computer was going to be moved up there as well. 

Anyhow, I called my ex husband's wife quick to have her ask my daughter where she had put the paint samples that I had grabbed while we were at Walmart the previous day...that is when she said to me...we are headed back to the house. We just got to our destination and we got a phone call from the Sherriff and Social worker saying that they needed us to come home because there were allegations of some sort. I said what do you mean allegations of some sort. She said I don't know, we are headed back to find out. I said I will meet you at your house. She said there is no need, I said 3 out of the 5 kids with you are mine, so yes, it if involves one its going to involve all of them. So I "flew" to there house which is 30 miles away. When I got there the Sheriff and the Social worker were sitting at the house waiting for them. I stepped out of the car and introduced myself and told them I was there mother and I wanted to know what was going on. They told me that there were allegations that my ex husband's oldest son had molested my youngest daughter who is 10. That is some of the most devastating news I have ever heard in my whole life.

 

There are so many things that are going through my mind as a parent and why is it I didn't know what was going on?? How did I not know that he was doing this to her?? This came as a shock to all of us. I am so blasted mad, I have held this in and not talked about it...mostly for investigative reasons, I would not want to inpede an investigation.

 

I can't really go into anymore detail than that...I am so disgusted with everything at the moment. My daughters innocence was taken away from her and that isn't something that I can give back to her. She is having a hard time dealing with all of this as well as myself. Her whole life has been uprooted in the last month and all she knew in her life has changed.

 

The kids are now living with me....the were placed in my protective custody. I am in the process of getting physically custody of them. We are in the middle of an investigation. My life as well as theres have been turned upside down.

 

Not asking you to feel sorry for my family, just had to get that all off my chest. I don't show my face around here much anymore. Just "pray" for us...send good vibes, whatever you believe in. I am not a highly religious person, but I need all the positive thoughts I can get.

 

Thanks for listeneing 



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03/25/2012 21:36:54
Well considering I said no names, and there wasn't any personal information disclosed no, I don't feel bad about it at all...


03/25/2012 15:08:32

This is awful.  However, I find it terribly concerning that you would air this for the whole world to see. Simply out of respect for your daughter, why would you post this?  Do you not think your daughter would want to keep this private until such a time where she can learn to cope with such a delicate situation, let alone understand it?  If something like this happened to you, would you want that available for everyone to read?  



03/20/2012 23:39:21
Thank you darkest red...I appreciate it.


03/20/2012 19:50:17
Don't think there is anything I can really say (apart from that I, too, admire your restraint), so instead I am praying x


03/19/2012 23:18:24
Well, I am not going to lie Viva, I told the sheriff over my dead lifeless body would my kids be going back to his house anytime soon. He told me that they were going to be put into my custody for the time being and I would be respondsible for making it legal on my own, which I am in the process of doing. My daughter has many behavior issues because of all of this and I am just beside myself and stressed to the max right now. She is starting therapy very soon and I hope that this will help her cope.


03/19/2012 22:51:18
Brandi, I don't have any kids, but I admire your restraint. If somebody had did this to my kids, there's no telling what I would have done. I'm sure I'd be on the receiving end of the law, not the enforcer.


03/19/2012 19:43:10
Thanks, I do remind her that daily. I have not pushed for her to talk to me about it until she is ready. She told law enforcement everything that they needed to know. I want the boy who did this to get help. He apparently was NOT in his right frame of mind when he did this. They are blood related so this was incest as well. I know it is not either of our faults, I look back now and everything "clicks" just wish I had realized this sooner. Thanks for your kind words and advice.


03/19/2012 19:39:44
Brandi, I'm not a mother yet, but I was a victim when I was 8, so hopefully I can give some useful advice. I know this is very overwhelming, but make sure you recognize how wonderful it is that she was able to speak up. The best thing you can do for the both of you is understand that this is not either of your faults. There are sick people out there and all you can do is learn to recognize them and avoid them. So,remind her daily how beautiful and wonderful she is and she should be fine.




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