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Cluster F*** situation

By: Wander214
Mood: befuddled
Date: 12/25/2007 23:13:43
Music: NIN - Bite The Hand That Feeds


I have been in some pretty sticky situations before, but I think I have gone and got myself stuck in something entirely new this time. I suppose I should start with the back story, for without it my tale would make little or no sense. For a couple of months now my sister has been telling me about her new-ish boyfriend and how much she likes him. Being a rather protective fellow in regards to my little sister I am somewhat perturbed by this (for no reason other than that it is my sister), fortunatly for all involved he lives on the complete opposite side of the state so they have few oppurtunities to see each other (or otherwise engage in activities that would cause me to consider seriously maiming him). So far its all good and well. Then last weekend I give her a call, just to talk and she tells me that JJ (her boyfriend) has run away from home and is living out of his car in the same town I live in. I set aside my misgivings and tell my sister that he can come stay with me and my roommate until he gets on his feet and figures out a gameplan. All is well, for a while. The next day I arrange for my roommate to go pick him up and let him into our home. He hangs out for awhile, then leaves to first visit his car, then to visit my sister. I arrive home about an hour or so before he gets back from visting my sister. When he gets back we talk for awhile and decide to have a few beers. Overall it was a pretty fun night, and sometime in the wee hours of the morning I decide to go to bed. Later I learn from my roommate that JJ left for his car again after I had gone to bed, which somewhat angered my roommate because he stayed up (and evetually passed out) waiting for him to return.  The next morning my roommate knocks on my door trying to rouse me, saying that some crazy shinola is going on. I have seen some crazy shinola go down in that apartment, and when my roommate says its crazy he means crazy. So I jump my still hung over ass out of bed to investigate this new craziness. To my surprise I see a strange girl sitting in our living room. My roommate tells me "Andrew, meet Chelsie, JJ's fiancee." Oh shinola. I lay down on the ground for awhile, then get up to get beer for everyone. After an hour or so of intense conversation, I learn that this girl has been with JJ for a little over two years and that they were engaged to be married. I also learn that she knew nothing of my sisters involvement with JJ, and that when she left her home with him she was expecting to come to the city and try to make a life with him and it was her he was going to visit in his car. Clusterfarted. Oh but it gets worse. After a few days of almost non-stop partying (it is the christmas season, and a few buddies are back from the Service) I come to learn that my sister is going to stay with this lying asshole. Clusterfarted. But it gets worse yet. My boss took off for California to visit family so this whole last week or so I have been at home while my roommate goes to his job. This leaves me alone with this girl and we get to talking. One thing leads to another, and now we are kissing and sleeping in the same bed (I have not had sex with her though!). Clusterfarted. But it gets worse. At first this physical and emotional relationship I developed with this girl was purely a matter on convience, and I thought nothing of it, it was like masturbation, except for the soul instead of the body, a patch of sorts that I placed no significance on. But as time went on I found myself genuinely liking this girl and desiring her companionship. Then the true kicker. I left for the holidays to be with my family and this whole time I have been gone I have thought about little besides her. Clusterfarted. Whoops. I think I have gone a done it this time, really gotten myself in a pickle that I am not sure how to proceed on. If anyone made it through this long rambling, advice would be most welcome, at the very least pray for my soul because I am pretty sure I will burn in hell for this one...






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12/27/2007 09:16:59

ah, foolishness is too light a word for this mess, dude, keep an eye on your stuff...This 'JJ' doesn't seem very trustworthy, nor does his 'fiancee'

too mucho drama for me!



From: Dnarose
12/26/2007 15:50:49

You really should tell your sister about the situation.

About the girl, find out more before you become too involved. Is she only with JJ because she is homeless?  Find out the reasons and only then can you make a wise decision on her. If she is really planning on marrying JJ, then you know what you should do.



12/26/2007 02:00:42
Ohhh and you win... You're is better than mine.. Mine just involves 10 years of marriage,and 3 kids....lol...  Hey if she had as many sticking outta her as she's had stuck in her, she'd look like a freakin porcupine!!!!!


12/26/2007 01:59:04
damn jules took it away from me.. of course i'm about 3 hours later.. But i agree.. Your sister deserves better, if you kick him out and keep her #1 your sister isn't going to like that worth a damn. #2 she has no respect for a "Commited" as i assume a marriage proposal type commitment relationship. The word is Committed not convienent... trust me if she will step out of the relationship before she will after.  And although i hate to admit it. I dont think you should have had anything to do with her while she was "engaged" either. My ex wife cheated on me numerous times. I despise the guy just as much for doing it knowing she was married. Not that i despise you at all there Wander it is just my opinion.. tell you what you raise your glass right now and i'll raise mine and well toast on "Good things happening to everyone invloved"!!!!   DRINK!!!


From: itsjules
12/25/2007 23:32:31
I believe I used the word "really" approximately seventeen times, down there, sorry.


From: itsjules
12/25/2007 23:26:04

Wow, wander...this is f.UCKed up

I do think that your sister should DUMP JJ's ass, if only because he's obviously a lying, disrespectful shIThead. She needs to respect herself enough to find someone who will treat her honestly and with some fu ck i ng HONOR, ya know?

Also, what is this girl thinking? Is SHE intending to stay with this "JJ" as well? If so, that sucks for you, but problem solved for you and your sister.

I hate to be harsh, but you and your sister should push those two little birdies out of your nest, and move on. I know it sucks when you really like someone that is not really available, but you really would be opening the BIGGEST can of clusterfUCked worms if you continued to try and see this girl. If she's going to call herself someone's fiance, she needs to honor that, for chrissakes.

And I hate to say it, but if she cheated on HIM--her supposed fiance--she will probably cheat on YOU if something more serious develops.

And this dude already really messed with your sister, he needs to be OUT of her life.

In my opinion.

Good luck, bubba. 

 









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